What do abusers often do that can heighten the tension during an incident?

Calling the victim from jail can heighten the tension during an incident because it can serve as a means for the abuser to exert power and control, manipulating the situation even from a distance. This action can be perceived as an attempt to intimidate or threaten the victim, reminding them of the abuser's influence and control over their life, even while incarcerated. It may also instill fear and anxiety in the victim, making them feel watched or unsafe, thereby escalating the emotional volatility of the situation.

In contrast, providing assistance to the victim or leaving the area until the police arrive would typically be actions aimed at diffusing the situation, which does not contribute to heightening tension. An apology, while potentially seen as a step towards reconciliation, often lacks sincerity in the context of an abusive relationship and may not alleviate the emotional strain, but it does not have the immediate tension-increasing effect that a phone call from jail would have. Therefore, options that suggest support or disengagement do not align with the actions of abusers that often exacerbate already tense situations.